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BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby hersus » Wed Nov 03, 2010 10:21 am

Apanya yang mau digugat lha nabinya aja kawin sampe puluhan bini !!! dari umur ingusan sampe bini anak angkat plus budak semua di embat dengan alasan disuruh owohnya !!!!hehehe
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Postby doramma » Fri Nov 05, 2010 3:26 am

Lagi-lagi kafir asal bacot! Poligami nabi itu khusus, untuk kepentingan agama.....kalau Aisya tak dinikahi nabi, tak akan ada itu hadist-hadist Aisya, kebiasaan kafir yg boudoh itu akan terus berlangsung sampai sekarang!

[QS 2:79] Maka kecelakaan yAng besarlah bagi orang-orang yang menulis Al Kitab dengan tangan mereka sendiri, lalu dikatakannya; "Ini dari Allah", (dengan maksud) untuk memperoleh keuntungan yang sedikit dengan perbuatan itu. Maka kecelakaan yang besarlah bagi mereka, akibat apa yang ditulis oleh tangan mereka sendiri, dan kecelakaan yang besarlah bagi mereka, akibat apa yang mereka kerjakan.

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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Sun Nov 07, 2010 8:14 pm

adalagi byk kebiasaan kafir yg menyiksa wanita,pdhal sbg istri atau nakan kandungnya sendiri,tanpa pernikahan nabi dg Aisya,kebiasaan boudoh kapir itu akan 0terus berlanjut sampai skrg. anak perempuan dikubur hidup2,dan yg mah berlanjut di kalangan kafir,istri haid disetubuhi...hih,menjijikan!
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Mon Nov 08, 2010 10:37 am

krn pernikahan nabi terkait dakwah u/ kepentingan agama,mk diatur secara khusus di quran,baca QS 33:50
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby mbah.erott » Mon Nov 08, 2010 10:50 am

doramma wrote:krn pernikahan nabi terkait dakwah u/ kepentingan agama,mk diatur secara khusus di quran,baca QS 33:50

WOooi.... baca lagi gugatan muslim di halaman 1.
Kalo mo bahas nabi bejad dan allah swt sontoloyo sdh ada thread masing2.
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Mon Nov 08, 2010 11:23 am

nah mana bukti kl aku fitnah penulis buku ini?! dimana fitnahnya!
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Mon Nov 08, 2010 3:33 pm

Mana nieh...kabuur lagi...ha ha ha ha..TERBUKTI KAFIRUN TUKANG FITNAH. suka asal bacot aja..
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Mon Nov 08, 2010 9:34 pm

mana nieh tukang fitnahnya...
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Postby ramonhorpa » Mon Nov 08, 2010 11:24 pm

Perkawinan dlm Islam : minimal DUA dan bukan SATU istri ???? :shock: :shock:

with thanks to Foxhound:
http://www.indonesia.faithfreedom.org/f ... highlight=

An Nisaa'
3. Dan jika kamu takut tidak akan dapat berlaku adil terhadap (hak-hak) perempuan yang yatim (bilamana kamu mengawininya), maka kawinilah wanita-wanita (lain) yang kamu senangi : dua, tiga atau empat.

YUSUFALI: Jika kamu takut kalau kamu tidak akan dapat berlaku adil terhadap yang yatim, Kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu senangi, Dua atau tiga atau empat; tapi jika kamu takut kalau kamu tidak akan dapat berlaku adil (terhadap mereka), maka seorang saja, atau (seorang tawanan) yang dimiliki tangan kananmu, itu akan lebih sesuai, untuk mencegah kamu dari berbuat ketidakadilan.
PICKTHAL: dan jika kamu takut kalau kamu tidak akan dapat berlaku adil terhadap yang yatim, kawinilah wanita-wanita, yang terlihat baik bagimu, dua atau tiga atau empat; dan jika kamu takut tidak akan dapat berlaku adil (kepada sedemikian banyak) maka seorang (saja) atau (tawanan-tawanan) yang dimiliki tangan kananmu. Yang demikian itu adalah lebih mungkin sehingga kamu tidak akan berbuat ketidakadilan.
SHAKIR: Dan jika kamu takut kalau kamu tidak dapat berlaku adil terhadap yang yatim, maka kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu pandang baik bagimu, dua dan tiga dan empat; tapi jika kamu takut kalau tidak akan dapat berbuat keadilan (diantara mereka), maka (kawinilah) seorang saja atau apa yang dimiliki tangan kananmu; ini adalah lebih pantas, sehingga kamu tidak akan menyimpang dari arah yang benar.


Itu artinya, perintah minimal dua, justru angkat satu adalah pengecualian, dan toleransi kepada yang tidak kuat mengangkat.

JADI ... perintah Muhammad adalah:
Kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu senangi : dua, tiga atau empat.
Kemudian jika kamu takut tidak akan dapat berlaku adil, maka (kawinilah) seorang saja, atau budak-budak yang kamu miliki.

Jadi kawini seorang saja, itu adalah perkecualian... toleransi bagi seseorang yang takut berlaku adil. Tapi perintah utamanya "Kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu senangi : dua, tiga atau empat." :wink:

ck ck ck ck.... gitu ya bro ?
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Tue Nov 09, 2010 2:08 am

gitu aja kok gak bisa baca. yg lengkap donk,ayat 129nya jg dibaca...spy jelas..jelas2 itu perintah u/ monogami dan larangan poligami lol!
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Postby Van » Tue Nov 09, 2010 6:37 am

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Itu artinya, perintah minimal dua, justru angkat satu adalah pengecualian, dan toleransi kepada yang tidak kuat mengangkat.

JADI ... perintah Muhammad adalah:
Kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu senangi : dua, tiga atau empat.
Kemudian jika kamu takut tidak akan dapat berlaku adil, maka (kawinilah) seorang saja, atau budak-budak yang kamu miliki.

Jadi kawini seorang saja, itu adalah perkecualian... toleransi bagi seseorang yang takut berlaku adil. Tapi perintah utamanya "Kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu senangi : dua, tiga atau empat." :wink:

ck ck ck ck.... gitu ya bro ?[/quote]

Oh... :stun:
Emang iya bro...
Trus kenapa...?
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Postby mbah.erott » Tue Nov 09, 2010 7:33 am

Itu artinya, perintah minimal dua, justru angkat satu adalah pengecualian, dan toleransi kepada yang tidak kuat mengangkat.

JADI ... perintah Muhammad adalah:
Kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu senangi : dua, tiga atau empat.
Kemudian jika kamu takut tidak akan dapat berlaku adil, maka (kawinilah) seorang saja, atau budak-budak yang kamu miliki.

Jadi kawini seorang saja, itu adalah perkecualian... toleransi bagi seseorang yang takut berlaku adil. Tapi perintah utamanya "Kawinilah wanita-wanita yang kamu senangi : dua, tiga atau empat." :wink:

ck ck ck ck.... gitu ya bro ?


Van wrote:Oh... :stun:
Emang iya bro...
Trus kenapa...?

Makanya, baca post #1 bro van..
Btw, thanks atas pengakuan bro van.
Berarti bro van setuju sama pemikiran penulis buku :supz:
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Tue Nov 09, 2010 9:27 am

Kafir memang toulol and asal bacot...

http://answering-ff.org/board/topic5552.html

raiguru wrote:iseng iseng baca Korintus pasal 7

ane nemuin ternyata pelaku Poligami terbanyak adalah umat kristen,....

gini dech,... seperti kita ketahui Perceraian adalah hal yang dilarang dalam kristen,...

umat kristen tahu bahwa Tuhan sangat membenci perceraian (Maleakhi 2:16)
firman-tuhan: Sebab itu laki-laki akan meninggalkan ayah dan ibunya dan bersatu dengan isterinya, sehingga keduanya itu menjadi satu daging.
Demikianlah mereka bukan lagi dua, melainkan satu. Karena itu, apa yang telah dipersatukan Allah, tidak boleh diceraikan manusia.(mat 19:5-6)

Saking kuatnya larangan tersebut, bagi orang yang memutuskan untuk meninggalkan istri atau suaminya (bercerai), maka dia harus tetap hidup tanpa pasangan(kor 7:11) sampai exhusband or exwifenya meningal alias mati alisa ko'it (kor 7:39)

Naaah, yang terjadi saat ini adalah, umat kristen sangat tidak sabar untuk menunggu bekas pasangannya itu mati,...
mati atau belum pun mereka tetap kawin lagi,....

praktek seperti ini sudah sangat biasa dalam umat kristen,..
padahal kalau kita merujuk pada ayat ayat dia atas, umat kristen yang menikah lagi sebelum bekas pasangannya itu meninggal, akan dianggap memiliki suami atau istri lebih dari satu,... alias poligamy,... :hug: :hug:

jadi sungguh ironis sekali melihat umat yang selalu mempermasalahkan polygamy malah menjadi umat yang terbanyak melakukan polygamy ,...... :tongue:
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Tue Nov 09, 2010 9:45 am

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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby Akukomkamu » Tue Nov 09, 2010 9:56 am

Hehehe... :lol: doramma lagi strees...bingun kok bisa punya nabi bejat !!! :lol:




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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Tue Nov 09, 2010 10:01 am

:stun: Justru kafirun yg bejad, memfitnah kok nabi, manusia termulia di dunia akherat. Lol!
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby Akukomkamu » Tue Nov 09, 2010 10:08 am

doramma wrote::stun: Justru kafirun yg bejad, memfitnah kok nabi, manusia termulia di dunia akherat. Lol!


Hahaha... :lol: :rolling: :lol: bener deh..menurut orang jahilliya !!!



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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Tue Nov 09, 2010 12:07 pm

??? gila
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby doramma » Tue Nov 09, 2010 1:38 pm

Missionaries and orientalists treat the subject of polygamy as if it were one of the rites of Islam, or one of its duties, or at least a desirable practice in Islam. This is an inaccuracy or a misconception. The overwhelming norm of marriage, for a Muslim, is to marry one woman to be his solace, the joy of his heart, the keeper of his house, and the one to trust with his secrets. Thus, quietude, love, and mercy, the foundation of married life according to the Qur'an, would support them. Therefore, the learned say, "It is disliked for a man who has a wife who is chaste and modest and who is enough for him to marry another. This will subject him to what is forbidden." The Almighty says: "You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married)". [Surah 4:129]

The Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) said, "The man who had two wives and was inclined towards one of them will come on the Day of Judgement bent to one side". [ Transmitted by Abu Dawud - his own wording - (3133), Al Termithy (1141), A-Nisa'i, 7/63, Ibn Majah (1969), Al-Doramy p.539, and Ahmad, 2/347, 471. All on the authority of Abu Huraira.] As for the man who is unable to sustain a second wife, or who is afraid of not being fair [ The obligatory fairness is to treat them equally in maintenance, clothing and housing. He is forbidden to go to the one on the night devoted to the other except out of expedience such as a crisis or grave illness. He is also forbidden to go there in the day time except for necessity such as a visit for a harmless illness, or to inquire about a certain matter he needs. If he does not stay long, there is no expiation because it is a slight matter. If he stays or has his lust consumed, he should expiate by going to the one he treated unfairly and staying at her place the same time he stayed with the first woman. That is what is decided as an elucidation of the obligatory justice.] to both of them, it is for bidden for him to marry another. The Almighty says:" but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one". [Surah 4:3]

Though it preferable for a man to have only one wife to avoid slips and out of fear of troubles in this world as well as punishment on the Day of Judgement, there are other humane considerations for the individual and society-which we will mention-that made Islam allow the Muslim to marry more than one wife. This is because Islam is the religion which conforms to sound naturalness and treats reality with out escape, exaggeration or fantasy.


Polygamy in olden times and in Islam

Some people talk about polygamy as if Islam was the first to permit it. This is incorrect and a dismissal of history.

Many nations and religions before Islam had allowed marrying a great number of women, tens of them, even a hundred, without any conditions or limitations. The Old Testament mentioned that David had three hundred women and that Solomon had seven hundred, some of whom were wives, while others were concubines.

With the advent of Islam, a condition and a limitation were laid on polygamy. The limitation made the maximum number of wives four. Ghilan Ibn Salma became a Muslim while he had ten women, so the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) said to him, "Choose four of them and leave (divorce) the others". [ Transmitted by Al-Termithy (1128) and Ibn Majah (1953) On the authority of Ibn 'Umar] The same thing happened to those who embraced Islam while having eight or five wives; they were ordered by the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) not to keep more than four.

As for the marriage of the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) to nine women, it was something restricted and specified by Allah for him for the Islamic call and for the nation's need of them after his passing away. He lived most of his life with one wife, Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her. That was a glorification by Allah of the Prophet's wives, who chose the way of Allah, His Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) and the afterlife. Therefore, Allah forbade him to marry any others nor to choose another instead of one of his wives. The Almighty says: "It is not lawful for you (to marry other) women after this, nor to change them for other wives even though their beauty attracts you". [Surah 33:52]


Fairness is a condition of polygamy

As for the condition set forth by Islam for polygamy, it is the self-confidence of the Muslim to be fair in his treatment to his two wives in food, drink, clothing, housing and sustenance. If one is not sure of his ability to fulfil such duties equitably and fairly, he is forbidden to marry more than one wife. Allah says: " But if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one". [Surah 4:3] The Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) said, "Whoever has two wives and is more inclined towards one of them, he will come on the Day of Judgement dragging one of his sides while it is drooping". [ Transmitted by Abu Dawud - his own wording (3133), Al-Termithy (1141), Al-Nisa'i, 7/63, Ibn Majah (1969), Al-Doramy p.539, and Ahmad, 2/347, 471. All on the authority of Abu Huraira.] The inclination which the Hadith warns us of takes place when he overlooks her rights and not when he merely inclines in feelings toward her, which is part of the equity that is not possible and which is forgiven by Allah. The Almighty says: " You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision)". [Surah 4:129] For this reason, the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) used to divide equitably between his wives and say, "Allah, that is my division as it is in my power to do so. Do not blame me for what You have and I have not. [ Transmitted by Abu Dawud (2134), Al-Termithy (1140), Ibn Majah (1971), Al-Doramy Book of Marriage p.540, and Ahmad 6/144 on the authority of isha.] By what he had not got , he meant feelings and inclination towards one of them in particular. Whenever he used to travel, he turned to drawing lots; the one whose arrow appeared would accompany him. He resorted to that in order to avoid jealousy and to satisfy them all.

Islam is the last word of Allah by which all His messages are concluded (sealed). Therefore, it came with a general and eternal Law to embrace all nations, all ages and all people. Islam has not made laws for the urban while overlooking the rural, nor for the cold regions and not the hot ones, or vice versa; nor for a certain age while ignoring the rest of the ages and the other generations. Islam appreciates the importance of individuals as well as communities.

A man could have a strong desire to have children but find him self married to a wife who is childless because of infertility or illness, or any other reason. Would it not be more respectable and better for her if he married another to realise his wish while at the same time keeping the first and ensuring her rights?

Some men are more sexual and lusty, but one could be married to a wife who has little desire for men, or who is ill or has a long period of menstruation or whatever. She does not satisfy the desire of his instinct nor fill his lustful eyes that seek other women. Would he not be allowed to marry another in a lawful manner instead of seeking another as a mistress, or instead of divorcing the first one?

In addition, the number of eligible women for marriage might be more than the men able to marry, especially after wars that deplete the best of men and youth. It might be in the interest of the society and the women themselves who would prefer being second wives than living as spinsters all their lives, deprived of married life and what it has of quietude, love and protection, deprived of the bliss of the motherhood their instincts call for. There are only three ways for these surplus women:

1 - to spend their whole life feeling the bitterness of deprivation of married life and of motherhood, which is a severe punishment for them as they did not commit any crime.

2- or give them some freedom to follow their instincts and accept the means of pleasure with corrupt men who, after satisfying their desires, cast them away when their bloom and youth are gone. This is in addition to what might happen afterwards of begetting illegitimate children, increasing the number of fatherless children deprived of physical and psychological rights who become unproductive citizens and tools of destruction and corruption.

3- or to allow them each to marry a married man who is able to sustain and protect her, confident of his fairness as Allah Almighty has commanded.

Doubtless, this last alternative is the ideal, fair solution and a curing balm. That is what Islam has decreed: "And who is better in judgement than Allah for a people who have firm Faith". [Surah 5:50]


Polygamy as a moral, human system

The system of polygamy according to Islamic Law is a moral, human system. It is moral because it does not allow man to have intercourse with any woman he wishes, at any time he likes. He is not allowed to have intercourse with more than three women in addition to his (first) wife, and he cannot do that secretly, but must proceed with a contract and announce it, even among a limited audience. The people in charge of the woman should know about this lawful intercourse and agree to it or at least should not object to it. It should be registered-according to the modern system-in a specialised court for marriage contracts. It is desirable to have a special dinner for the occasion in which the man invites his friends. Dufoof (hand drums) may be played to express utmost joy and hospitality.

It is human because through it a man lessens the burdens of the community by sheltering a woman who has no husband and transforms her to a chosen, protected wife. It is also human because he justifies his sexual intercourse based on a legal marriage for which the bridegroom provides a dower, furniture and expenses. Also of social benefit is the establishment of a social unit (family) capable of producing working progeny. It is also human because he is not only responsible for the woman with whom he has intercourse, but he is responsible when she suffers from the troubles of pregnancy. He does not leave her to bear it alone, but he bears a part of it by paying for her sustenance and expenses during her pregnancy and for her delivery. It is also that he recognizes the children begotten through sexual intercourse and presents them to the society as the fruits of a noble and honourable love, which are cherished by him and will be by the society in the future.

Dr Mustafa El-Siba'i, may Allah have mercy on him, said of the system of polygamy, "Man distributes and lessens his lust to a certain extent, but he multiplies his burdens, troubles and responsibilities to an unlimited extent." Certainty, it is a moral system protecting morals, and it is a human system honouring mankind.


The Western system of promiscuity is immoral and inhuman

How different the Islamic system is from the actual promiscuity in the life of the Western society! One Western writer insisted that no one on his death-bed could confess to the priest that he had not had intercourse with a woman (other than his wife) at least once in his life-time. This promiscuity of the West is without a law; moreover, it occurs while the law stands by. It does not happen in the name of wives, but in the name of friendships and mistresses. It is not limited to only four, but is unlimited. It is not announced in order to be celebrated by the family, but happens secretly without anyone knowing about it. In addition, it does not commit the doer to any financial responsibility towards the women he has intercourse with. Suffice it for him to tarnish their honour and then leave them to scandal and poverty and to endure the troubles of pregnancy and delivery. Besides, he is not committed to recognise the children begotten as the outcome of the intercourse. They are considered illegitimate, bearing the stigma of being bastard children as long as they live.

It is a legal promiscuity, but it is not called "polygamy". It is void of any moral behaviour, awakening of sensibility or human feeling. It is a promiscuity directed by lust and selfishness which flees from any responsibility.

Which of the two systems then is closer to morality, more allaying to lust, more honourable to women, more denotative of progress and more righteous to humanity? [ See Women Between Jurisprudence and Law (Al-Mara'ah baina al-Fiquh wal-Qann) by Dr Mustafa El-Sibai. See also The Liberation of Woman in the Period of the Messenger (Tahrir al-Mara'ah fe Asr Al-Resalah) by Abd Al-Haleem Abu Shaqqah, fifth part.]


The abuse of the license of polygamy

We do not deny that many Muslims have abused the license of polygamy as decreed by Allah in the same way they have abused the license of divorce, as explained earlier. The failure is not in the Law itself but in the application due to misunderstanding, ill manners, or lack of the teachings of the religion.

We have seen some men marry more than one when the man is not certain of his fairness, which is a condition set by Allah for marrying another. Some of them marry more than one when they are unable to sustain both nor, in addition, what follows the marriage, i.e. children and responsibilities. Some men are able to sustain more but are unable to protect them.

Frequently, the abuse of this right leads to harmful consequences for the family as a result of pampering the new wife and treating the old one unfairly. He could totally end his inclination towards her until she is left hanging in the air, so to speak, neither married nor divorced. This frequently leads to envy among children who belong to one father because he is not fair to them in their rights, nor does he treat them equally in moral and financial dealings.

Whatever the transgression of some people in that realm, it will never reach the evil to which the Westerners have lowered themselves by considering the moral polygamy a crime while allowing the immoral promiscuity. (However, polygamy is longer a problem in most Muslim societies, as marriage to one woman has now become a great problem.)


The call of westernized people to forbid polygamy

Unfortunately, some people calling for Westernisation in our Arab and Islamic countries have made use of what has happened because of the Muslims who transgress; they raise their voices asking for polygamy to be abolished completely. Day and night the disadvantages of polygamy are reiterated while silence is kept about the disadvantages of adultery and fornication, which is, unfortunately, allowed by local laws which rule over Muslim states nowadays. The mass media, especially films and serials, have played a serious role in spreading repulsive feelings toward polygamy, among women in particular, so that some of them would tolerate the husband when he commits adultery but not when he marries another.


The basis on which those who call for rejection of polygamy rely

Such advocates have succeeded in some Arab and Islamic countries, and laws have been issued forbidding what God has ordained and made lawful, thus allowing the laws of the West. There are still others who call for these changes in other countries.

The incredible thing in this case is they want to justify their system of polygamy in the name of Islamic Law and have proofs in the form of jurisprudence. They have objected it is the right of the person in authority to prevent what is allowed when it is in the interest of the people, or to avoid harm. Such a pretext is unacceptable by Islamic Law. Some have even gone so far as to attempt, in a rude and audacious way, to use the Qur'an to justify their claims. The Qur'an has put a condition for the man who marries more than one to be sure of his fair treatment of the two (or more) wives, and whoever is afraid of not being fair should keep only one. Allah says: "And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls, then many (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one". [Surah 4:3] This is the Qur'an's condition for polygamy-fairness. However, the Quran, they claim, has clarified in another verse in the same Surah that the conditioned fairness is not possible, in the verse: "You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision)". [Surah 4:129] Therefore, it is claimed, this verse has negated the previous one In fact, all the evidence which is being used is false and cannot stand sound criticism. Each will be discussed.


1- Islamic Law does not allow something whose evil outweighs its good

The claim that polygamy has caused social and familial corruption and detriment is an open fallacy; Islamic Law cannot permit something which will do harm; likewise, it does not forbid something of benefit. This is expressed in the Qur'an in the most eloquent and comprehensive phrases with the description of the Messenger (blessings and peace be upon him), and addressing the people of the Book (i.e., the Jews and Christians). "He
commands them for Al-Ma'ruf (i.e. islamic Monotheism and all that Islam has ordained); and forbids them from Al-Munkar (i.e.disbelief polytheism of all kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden); he allows them as lawful At-Tayyibat [(all i.e. good and lawful) as regards things deeds, beliefs, persons, foods etc] , and prohibits them as unlawful Al-Khabaith (all i.e. evil and unlawful as regards things, deeds, beliefs, persons, foods etc.), he releases them from their heavy burdens (of Allah's Covenant), and from the fetters (bindings) that were upon them. [Surah 7: 157] All that is permitted by Islamic Law has pure benefit or benefits which outweigh harm. All that is forbidden by Islamic Law must have pure harm or the harms must outweigh the benefits. This is clear in what is said in the Qur'an about alcohol and gambling: Say, "In them is great sin, and (some) benefit for men, but the sin of them is greater than their benefit". [Surah 7:219] This is also what Islamic Law has provided for in polygamy, as it balances interests and corrupting matters, benefits and harms.

It permits what the individual needs and is able to do as long as he is sure of his fairness, and is not afraid of being unjust or having a greater inclination towards one of them: "but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one". [Surah 4:3]

It may be in the interest of the first wife to be the sole one on the throne of marriage without any rivals, and she sees that she will be harmed by the presence of another wife; but it is also in the interest of the husband to marry another to protect him from illicit relationships or bring him an awaited-for child, etc.; moreover it may also be in the interest of the second wife to have someone take care of her.

To have half a husband, to live under his protection and be in his charge may be better than living as a spinster, widow or divorcee, in deprivation.

It is also in the interest of society to protect its men and women by legitimate marriage-in which each of them bears the responsibility for himself or herself and the spouse and for what Allah may give them of children-that is, instead of promiscuity, allowing the multiplicity of mistresses, which is immoral and inhuman, and in which each has the pleasure of a companion without any responsibility for what follows, even if a child is born of that illicit relationship. In turn, the child is then considered a wild plant without a father to belong to, or a family to give him love and compassion or a heredity to cherish.

Which harms should be avoided then? On the other hand, Islamic Law has reserved the first wife's right to equity between herself and the second wife concerning maintenance, housing, clothing and staying at her place. That is the equity put as a condition for polygamy. It is true that some husbands do not observe the justice commanded by Allah, but the misapplication does not mean the basic principle should be cancelled; otherwise the whole of Islamic Law and all other laws would be abolished. Adherence of the law should be enforced.


2- The right of the person in authority to prevent what is allowed

As to the claim that the person in authority has the right to prevent some of what is allowed, we have the following to say: what the Law has given to the person in authority is the right to limit some of what is permitted for a weighty interest at some times, or in some cases, or for certain people. He should not generally or utterly prevent it forever because that would be like forbidding, which is only Allah's right, denied by the Qur'an to the People of the Book. "They (Jews and Christians) took their rabbis and their monks to be their lords besides Allah by obeying them in things which they made lawful or unlawful according to their own desires without being ordered by Allah". [Surah 9:31] The Hadith came to interpret the verse, "They allowed for them and forbade them and thus followed them". [ Transmitted by Al-Termithy on the authority of Adeyy ibn Hatim in the interpretation sections (3095) and by lbn Jarir in his interpretation section (16631). Al-Termithy said this Hadith is ghareeb (i.e., it has only one transmitter), but in the section about Hudhaifa, it is mauqf (i.e., it was narrated by the Companions, not by the Prophet [blessings and peace be upon him]) and transmitted by Al-Tabary (16634).]

To limit what is allowed is like preventing the slaughter of animals on certain days to lessen their consumption, as happened at the time of `Umar, may Allah be pleased with him; or like preventing excess cultivation of a certain crop so cultivation space will not encroach upon the space attributed to growing grains and other nutritious crops that are staple foods for the people. It is also similar to preventing the highest ranks of military officers or diplomats from marrying foreigners for fear of leaking state secrets through women to the enemies. It is also like preventing men from marrying a Christian or a Jew out of fear that it would affect Muslim women, especially in the communities that have small Islamic minorities and limited Muslim expatriates.

But to come to something allowed by Allah in His Book and mentioned by His Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him), established in the state, such as divorce or polygamy, and to prevent it utterly and forever is considered something different from limiting what is allowed according to the examples given.

The meaning of You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives. [Surah 4:129]

As to the illustration from the Glorious Qur'an, it is wholly rejected. It is a corruption of the order of words and carries within it an accusation against the Prophet Mohammed (greetings and peace be upon him) and his companions (may Allah be pleased with them), implying they did not understand the Qur'an, or maybe that they did but intentionally deviated from its precept. The verse quoted to illustrate the point also gives an answer if the meaning is perused; Almighty Allah has allowed polygamy on the condition of fairness, then highlights the fairness needed in the same chapter when He says: " You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married)". [Surah 4:129] This verse indicates that complete and absolute justice between women is impossible due to the nature of the human being because complete justice requires equity between them in everything, even in the inclination of the heart and in sexual desire, and that cannot be controlled by the man. He may love one more than the other, incline towards one more than another. Hearts are controlled and turned by Allah in the way He likes.

Therefore, the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) used to say after dividing between his women the apparent affairs of maintenance, clothing and spending nights, "Allah, that is my division as it is in my power to do so. So not blame me for what You have and I have not". [ Transmitted by Abu Dawud (2134), Al-Termithy (1140), Ibn Majah (1971) Al-Doramy Book of Marriage p.154; and Ahmad 61144 on the authority of - isha] He meant the heart's inclination. It is this inclination in which one cannot be fair that Allah has pardoned, as the Almighty does not rebuke man for something beyond his ability when it is not in his power to do it.

Therefore the noble verse says: "You will never be able to do pefect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other suspended (i.e. neither divorced nor married)". [Surah 4:129] What is understood from this verse is that some inclination, which is the emotional inclination, is forgivable.

The amazing thing is that some Arab countries adopt the forbiddance of polygamy, though in their legislation they do not forbid adultery, except in certain cases when one is forced (rape), or in the case of the woman's marital infidelity if the husband does not drop the charge. Adultery is described by Allah as a great sin: "And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a fahshah (a great sin), and an evil way". [Surah 17:32]

I came to know through the great Imam Sheikh `Abd Al Haleem Mahmud, may Allah have mercy on his soul, that a Muslim living in an African-Arab country which had laws against polygamy secretly married another wife through a legitimate conventional contract, abiding by all its conditions except that it was not authenticated. This is because the country's established law refused to authenticate or admit it and considered such a marriage a crime for which he would have to be punished. The man used to frequent the house of his (second) wife, so the police watched him and came to assume that she was his wife and that he had committed an offence against the law. One night they waited for him, arrested him at his wife's place and took him to court accusing him of marrying a second wife.

The man was clever and asked those interrogating him, "But who told you she is my wife? She is not a wife. She is a mistress whom I took as a companion and I call on from time to time " The interrogators were taken aback and told the man very politely, "We are awfully sorry for the misunderstanding. We thought she was a wife and did not know she was a companion." Thereupon, they released him because, to them, to have the illicit company of a woman as a mistress to commit adultery with is considered within the framework of personal freedom protected by the law.
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Re: BUKU : ISLAM MENGGUGAT POLIGAMI (THE ONE N ONLY!!)

Postby Akukomkamu » Tue Nov 09, 2010 2:10 pm

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