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Gay? Muslim? Marry a lesbian!
Across the globe and especially in America, hundreds of other gay
Muslims have started to pursue marriages of convenience–or MOC, as
they are known– in which gay Muslims seek out lesbian Muslims, and
vice versa, for appearances' sake.
Mansoor works as an accountant in New York and is a devout Muslim. He abstains from drinking alcohol or eating pork and is particular about offering early morning prayers.
To his friends on Wall Street, he is a financial whiz; to his parents, a
devoted son. But Mansoor is also part of a burgeoning trend of gay
Muslims adopting marriages of convenience
. Hard statistics are hard to
come by, but on a single Web site for South Asian gays and lesbians
seeking such marriages, almost 400 requests had been uploaded.
They ranged from a desperate plea from Atlanta ("I just finished medical
school, and the pressure for me to get married is becoming ridiculous.
I can't have a conversation with my parents without them pressuring
me") to a straightforward one from Texas ("I will not object to her
having sex with other women").
Mansoor credits the Internet for making these marriages a real possibility for gay Muslims. Gay activists agree and say that in recent years they have seen a rise in such marriages among Muslims.
Jack Fertig, a co-coordinator for al-Fatiha, a national advocacy group for gay Muslims, says he comes across at least one such e-mail request every month.
"It's obvious that this is becoming a viable option," he said. "People are
seeking, looking and trying to make connections that could develop into
Other activists say gay Muslims are resorting to these unions for reasons of self-preservation.
"Marriages of convenience are the result of gay Muslims wanting to avoid emotional and physical harm to themselves,"
says Muhammed Ali, a board member of Homan, a Los Angeles-based support group for gay Iranians.
Homosexuality is a crime punishable by death in much of the Islamic world. In Iran last year, two gay teenagers were publicly executed, while in Afghanistan, the Taliban government would torture homosexuals by
collapsing walls on them.
Though gay Muslims in America don't have such fears, they still seek out marriages of convenience as a way of staying in the closet. Many of them worry about being ostracized from their families if their secret is revealed.
A marriage of convenience is the perfect solution, Mansoor said. "It's a great option," he said. "I get married to a lesbian, we sleep in different
rooms and remain friends. Meanwhile, I can have a boyfriend